The Meaning of Friendship

People define friendship in many different ways. It almost always means something different to you than it does to the person standing next to you. This is my definition of friendship. I have always been one to value true friendship. I believe there are many that come into your life for a reason, but there are only a few who stay and travel the distant with you.

Friendship is a personal relationship shared between each friend for the welfare of each other, in other words, it is a relationship of trust, faith and concern for each others feelings. It is a relationship of mutual caring and intimacy among one another. A friend is one who knows you as a person and regards you for what you are and doesn’t expect you to be anyone but who you choose to be.

 friendship_440_494 In certain cases friendship may not last for a long period of time and might end or lose its prime importance of love and regard for each other. There are some friendships which might end with unresolved conflicts and tiffs which means that these types of relationships were not strong enough to hold on in adversity and bad times. Friendship is not about who left but about who stays with you and weathers each and every storm. Friendship requires loyalty, truth and complete understanding. It involves communication when you don’t understand something. Communicating can be the difference between hurt feelings and the end of a friendship to the feeling of contentment and mutual understanding when someone is lost and needs some time to heal.

It should be understood that not all friends are best friends. One might come across numerous friends in this life but there are very few who will be their during your ups as well as stand by you when you are down. How you recognize your best friend is the one who will understand your strengths and shortcomings and would be with you matter what. Best friends put aside pride and hurt feelings, and just care enough about the other to save the friendship.

I’ve been lucky in this life to have a best friend and a few good friends that I can count on to be there when I need them. There have also been some hard lessons too. I have learned that I trust too much, share too much and give too much some of the time to people who just wouldn’t do the same for me. This has left me a bit more closed off than I used to be. I am slowly learning who is important and who really cares. I am learning who deserves my friendship and who I should forget.

That is my opinion of how the  bond between true friends is formed. So best of luck in finding or recognizing a true friend and if you have one, don’t let them go.

What is your definition of friendship? What do you expect from a friend?

© Copyrighted 2013 Debra A. DeVita

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11 thoughts on “The Meaning of Friendship

  1. I think you have a good definition there. I think friendship is something that is also impossible to explain, as there is a closeness that develops between some people that does not between others, despite being in similar circumstances. it is almost a chemical thing.
    I also think it is amazing how simply having a few close friends is enough to get you through son many of the difficulties in life.

  2. I have a few pals with whom, after years of separation and months of not talking, can pick up a conversation with me like we’d never been apart. Like Gina says, there is just something chemical that binds certain people together. I believe you are right, Debbie, in that communication is a key element in cementing relationships, whether platonic or romantic. If you can’t say what’s on your mind, and you have to constantly tiptoe around one another, you just have to question what the heck you’re doing together. Sometimes history (longevity) just isn’t enough to hold on to something that’s no longer there. On the other hand, I’m an odd bird in that I’d still put myself out there for people I don’t like, and for people who don’t much like me, either. You know what? Come to think of it, I don’t know if I can give a good description of what it means to be a friend. I know how I treat people, and I know how I want to be treated. Sometimes it’s mutual, sometimes it’s not. Humans are weird.

    • Yes, longevity in friendship is great. I am still close with a few I have known forever from grade school and that is a special bond because you have shared so much of life but I have also met a few great ones from Twitter that I consider amazing friends I have only known a few years. I believe friendship is about who is there when it counts, not necessarily how long you’ve known them. Thanks for commenting Andi :)

      • santosh kamble 11/03/2013 at 1:14 AM - Reply

        FriEndSHiP iS A PRiCeLeSs GiFt tHaT cAn’T Be BoUgHt Or SoLd, BuT To Have An UnDeRsTaNdiNg FriEnd iS FaR MoRe WoRtH tHaN GoLd~!
        That Friend is You!

  3. friendship is like a board which given support.friend is a god of gift. Gibran reminds us that we should share notonly troubles.but our joys too with friends we shared our happy momets,your prablams and any theng also there war a am laik so mach in friend.

  4. santosh kamble 11/03/2013 at 1:15 AM - Reply

    FriEndSHiP iS A PRiCeLeSs GiFt tHaT cAn’T Be BoUgHt Or SoLd, BuT To Have An UnDeRsTaNdiNg FriEnd iS FaR MoRe WoRtH tHaN GoLd~!
    That Friend is You!

  5. Thanks for good info, and your experience . Really we : a friend in need is a friend indeed , What a large number of friends when you are counting them but when you need them you don’t find anyone .

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